Have you ever found yourself in an emotionally low state, and no matter what you said to yourself or did, you couldn’t seem to immediately shake it off? Take heart. We have all been through this, even the most “positive” of us.
In this article, I will explain the 3 things to avoid and the 3 things to do when you find yourself in one of those emotionally rare low moods.
The 3 Things to Avoid during an Emotionally Low State:
Thing to Avoid # 1 – Expecting Your Moods to Turn Off and On at Will
An emotion, i.e, a mood, once in motion rarely stops suddenly as a result of a supreme effort of will. You may help yourself out of a low mood by becoming active, listening to lively music, singing, or dancing. But all of this is still a process. It can be helpful, but there is still no absolute guarantee of an immediate 180° reversal.
Give yourself some time to make a positive shift of gears.
Thing to Avoid # 2 – Making an Important Decision while in a Low Mood
Making an important decision while you are in a low mood is much like making an important decision when you are intoxicated or drunk. Your perception is different. Your cognitive and rational acuity is altered and clouded. There is only one sure result of a decision made while in a low mood and that is that you will probably regret it.
There is only only one solution to making an important decision while in a low mood, and that is “don’t.” Wait. Avoid regrets. If the decision is that important, it deserves that you be in a better state of mind.
Thing to Avoid # 3 – Expecting Peak Performance while in a Low Mood
How fast can an Olympic gold medalist run when he or she is tired, hungry, or sleep? How well can you perform important tasks when you are tired, disoriented, or in an “emotional funk?”
Give yourself some space. Go slow.
The 3 Things to Do during an Emotionally Low State:
Thing to Do # 1 – Remind Yourself that This Too Shall Pass Emotional low moods are temporary cold winds that blow through every “normal” person’s life. What I mean to say here is that, unless you have been diagnosed as clinically depressed, everyone has those occasional days where even meditating on all of the positive platitudes of life still doesn’t seem to do the trick. It’s okay.
We’ve all been there. Just as Kahil Gibran said in The Prophet, “And could you keep your heart in wonder at the daily miracles of your life, your pain would not seem less wondrous than your joy.”
Tomorrow is another day. As my daughter, Luzemily, said at 11-years-old, “You are born again every time you wake up.”
Thing to Do # 2 – Be Patient with Yourself and Not So Demanding I think that even the Buddha had his share of “bummer” days as well. He probably just accepted and surrendered to the inevitability of the moment and therefore thus unwittingly transmuted his non-peace into peace.
Don’t fight your low mood. Just be with it, and allow it to be. It is just passing through.
Thing to Do # 3 – Allow Yourself the Space or Permission to “Not-Do” Most high-achievers or normally “upbeat” individuals have a hard time handling it when the emotional tides are pulling them in a different direction.
You cannot always be a “peak performer.” Life is cyclical. There are highs and there are lows. No one is exempt. And even though you may be fortunate enough to enjoy the majority of your days “riding the waves,” it is unrealistic and self-defeating to not allow yourself an occasional day of non-achieving.
We all need a day of rest. Give yourself some space. Rest. Recharge yourself. Tomorrow will be a better day.
All the best,
Charles I. Prosper, MA Transformational Life Coach
Quote for Today’s Post: “Everybody has the right to have an ‘off’ day.” — Luzemily Prosper (spoken at 13-years old.)
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Can you describe the average person in two words or less? I can. It is “easily bothered.” In our day-to-day, hustle-and-bustle lifestyle, most of us, and especially those of us with the challenges of working and raising a family can easily fall into this category.
In this post, I want to give you 7 worthwhile benefits of deciding and making a commitment to become less easily bothered in your work and in your home life.
The first key that you must understand to making this new lifestyle work for you is that it is just as simple as making a decision to start right now. Becoming easily bothered is a habit; becoming less easily bothered is a habit as well.
The 7 Benefits of Becoming Less Easily Bothered:
Benefit # 1 – Your Level of Stress Will Be Immediately Reduced
Stress is a choice. Whether you try to do more than can be done, or you refuse to accept what has happened, or you sweat the small stuff by crying over cranberry juice just spilled on your new carpet, it is all a choice which leads to more stress.
By deciding to become less easily bothered, you will reduce the stress and the upset that you would normally experience.
Benefit # 2 – You’ll Find It Easier to Be More Accepting of the People in Your Life
Once you begin to practice this new mindset, you will notice that it will be easier to become patient and make allowances for the mistakes of the people in your life who you love.
Benefit # 3 – You’ll Become a Better Role-Model for Your Family
When the head is calm, so is the rest of the body. Your new commitment to remain calm sets the tone and the example for the rest of the family.
Benefit # 4 – You’ll Become Less Tired and Irritated
Becoming worried and stressed takes up enormous amounts of energy. By worrying less and becoming less irritated over the little things, you will have more energy to relax and to enjoy your family.
Benefit # 5 – Life Will Suddenly Become a More Fun and Interesting Experience
Forgiving, remaining calm, and overlooking the shortcomings of others soon becomes an exciting and fascinating new dimension in which to move, to live, and to love.
Charles I. Prosper
Quote for Today’s Post:
“Calm acceptance of what is — is the first step to solving any problem.” — Charles I. Prosper
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Relieve stress and excessive worry is a challenge for many living the fast-paced, productivity-driven life style that so many people live. In this article, I will offer you 4 simple and proven strategies that will help you to reduce stress and to over the habit of obsessive thinking of anxiety-producing thoughts.
4 Simple Strategies for Controlling Fear, Stress, and Excessive Worry
Strategy # 1 – Breathe, Breathe Deeply Throughout the Day
Though this suggestion may appear naively simple, it does have one distinct advantage. It works! If you notice your body when you are worried and tense, you are practically holding your breath.
Though from a scientific perspective, one would say that by allowing more oxygen to the brain, you are triggering the chemically relaxing endorphins of the brain.
Experience has taught me, that though this may be so, they appears to be a spiritual component that is integrated when you breathe slowly and deliberately. The entire “body-mind” systems begins to calm down and dissipate the mind-activity of obsessive thinking or worry.
Strategy # 2 – Learn to “Observe Your Thoughts” with Interest
I have explained countless times to my life-coaching clients that the thought and the “thinker” are not the same. True, the thinker may produce thought, but he or she is not the thought.
To take a scatological example, the crap and the “crapper” are not one and the same. The crapper produces the crap, but he or she is not the crap.
When you begin to observe your thoughts as though you were watching a play of energy, not a part of you, you will be surprised that thoughts of worry and anxiety will automatically begin to subside and exert less force.
Strategy # 3 – Talk to Someone Who Will Listen
It has been said that therapists are very expensive friends. This is because they are trained and “professional listeners.” It you are lucky enough to have someone in your life who is a good listener, share with them your worries. Sometimes just by expressing yourself, without the need for any particular advice, you can become more clear and centered.
Strategy # 4 – Read a Positive Book of Quotes or One of Positive Ideas
The kind of book that I am talking about here is one that offers you positive ideas in a simple, short and sweet manner. I can think of two such books. One is one of my favorites, “Don’t Sweat the Small Stuff” by Dr. Richard Carlson, and the other is “202 Inspirational Quotes of Charles Prosper.” The second one, you will receive within the first week, as a download, when you subscribe to my list community.
Quote of Today’s Blog Post – “There is no such thing as horrible. It’s just an opinion.” (Luzemily Prosper – spoken at 11-years-old).
All the best,
Charles I. Prosper
(Transformational Life Coach)