Category Archives: Personal Goals


Personal Development – The 3 Reasons Why Success Formulas Don’t Work–And What to Do Instead

Have you just read the latest get-rich book for success promulgated by currently popular”guru du jour”? In his bestselling book, he lists the step-by-step success formula how he achieved millionaire status, going from rags to riches in only 5 short years.  So now he wants to show you how to do the same by following his same career path.  There is only one problem here. Success formulas don’t work.

There is no one-size-fits-all path to achieving success in any field or endeavor.  As appealing as the “paint-by-number” concept of following someone’s else’s accomplishment may be, this mindset is fraught with hidden mine fields of inevitable pitfalls that were not accounted for in the original “success formula”

In this article, I will explain the 3 reasons why success formulas don’t work, and what to do instead.

The 3 Reasons Why Success Formulas Don’t Work

Reason Number 1 – No Two People Start in the Same Financial Situation

If you want to invest in real estate and make a million dollars in 5 years and you have bad credit, no job, and little capital, you plan and approach would be different from someone who has good credit, a steady job, and enough capital to start.  You would have to create a plan based on your situation.

The main flaw of most success formulas is that they don’t take in consideration any particular or special situation

Reason Number 2 – No Two People Have the Exact Same Skills and Experience

The success formula, which was originally developed and created, was based on the skills and experience of the originator.  Rarely do the “student” and the “teacher” start with the exact same skill and experience-level.

Reason Number 3 – No Two People Have the Same Talent, Discipline, and Determination

To achieve above average income requires above average discipline, determination, and in many cases, above average talent.  Each person needs to do a personal inventory and ascertain if he or she is discipline and determined enough to be willing to do whatever it takes.

In the real world most people are “average” in ambition, desire, and determination.  Were this not the case, above average would not even be possible.

What To Do Instead of Blindly Following Success Formulas

What To Do Instead Number 1 – Assess And Realistically Look At Your Financial Situation

You plan or path to success must be unique to your financial situation and where you are starting. When you read or study someone else’s step-by-step formula, you must ask how do the suggestions taught logically fit within the framework of where you are.  If they appear logical to your situation, then do it, and see what results.  The key thing is to learn by doing which in essence is the process of creating your own custom-made success plan.

What To Do Instead Number 2 – Assess Your Skills and Experience

If there is a skill that you must master, then your first plan is to master that skill.  As you put into practice what you learn, you are accumulating the experience necessary for further success.

What To Do Instead Number 3 – Know What Your Level of Desire and Determination Is

Your continued success is predicated in knowing what you want, why it is important, and the willingness to do whatever it takes no matter what obstacles arise.  If it were as easy as just following a success formula step-by-step, then everyone would be doing it.

Therefore with every success formula, the question to ask is “How does this fit within my personal situation right now?”  And carry out those steps which are most logical for you, and along the way, discover your own steps.

All the best,

Charles I. Prosper, MA
Transformational Life Coach

Quote for Today’s Post:

“There is no way to know before experiencing.” — Anonymous

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Personal Development – The 3 Biggest Mistakes of Time Management and What to Do Instead

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Do you know the 3 biggest mistakes of time management?  In this article, you will understand what these 3 most common mistakes are and what to do instead.

The 3 Biggest Mistakes of Time Management

Mistake Number 1 – You Make a “To-Do” List Based on the First Activities that Come to Mind

Making a to-do list based on the first activities that come to mind operates on the assumption that all things have equal value, and all things that can possibly be done, should be done.  The fact is that in a day of limited time, all things cannot possibly have the same value, and all things most definitely should not be done just because they have been placed on a list.

Mistake Number 2 – You Overload Your To-Do List with Too Many Things

Proponents of time management pride themselves in how much they are able to do in a day.  This a formula for stress and unhappiness.  More done does not equal better done.  Even worse, the people who insist on putting more and more on their daily to-do list also practice the insidious and counterproductive habit of “multi-tasking.”  Machines are meant to multi-task; people are not.

Mistake Number 3 – You Believe Completion of Tasks Equals Accomplishment

When an activity of placed on a list, there is this unspoken mandate to complete it no matter what. Some activities should not have been placed on your list in the first place.  Successful completion of menial and unimportant things, is failure of accomplishment in disguise.

The 3 Things of Time Management to Do Instead

What to Do Instead Number 1 – Make Your To-Do List Based on Your “1 Thing”

The concept of making a to-do list based on your 1 Thing is a very profound concept indeed.  The key to success is to know what is the 1 thing that your life is about and then plan your daily activities based on that.  It’s not really about “Time” Management, for time cannot be “managed.”  It is about Priority Management.  You must always do first things first.

What to Do Instead Number 2 – Simplify Your List to the Top 5 Things You Should Do Today

It has been my experience that to create a to-do list greater that 5 items, is to not focus on that which is most important.  And of that list of 5 things to do, it is important to do the most important activity first based on the importance of completing the advancement toward your 1 Thing.  Most people have a “could-do” list.  I am saying to create a “should-do” list — and make it no more than 5 items.

What to Do Instead Number 3 – Complete Only That Which You Have Ascertained to Be Important

People believe that procrastination is always bad, but procrastination of insignificant and menial activities is the mindset of a successful person.  What goes on your “Priority List” has to be filtered through the question of whether that activity will take you closer or farther away from your 1 Thing. 

Respectfully,

Charles I. Prosper, MA

Transformational Life Coach

Quote for Today’s Post:

“There is no such thing as time management. There is only priority management of the activities that lead you to your ‘One Thing’.” — Charles I. Prosper

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Personal Development and Self-Growth – How to Overcome Procrastination and Become Disciplined in 3 Easy Steps

Do you ever procrastinate?  You don’t even have to answer that question.  I know you do – everybody does.  The problem is not so much that you procrastinate but what is it that you procrastinate.  If you procrastinate doing unproductive, time-wasting tasks, this is a good thing.  The key to success is not to procrastinate on those things that you know will lead you to where you want to be.

In this article, I will show you how to overcome procrastination and become the “disciplined” person you’ve always wanted to be in 3 easy steps.

How to Overcome Procrastination and Become Disciplined in 3 Easy Steps:

Step 1 – Know that “Discipline” Is a Temporary Experience

The effort of what we call discipline is just a “changing of the guards.”  This effort that we exert to know what we know we must do, i.e., exercise, eat less, study more, spend more time on our business, or whatever, is an effort that you will experience in the beginning of your new routine, but it will gradually subside as you continue each day to make yourself do what you must do.

You must be willing to “suffer,” only at the beginning, and if you stick with it, the “stage of suffering” will weaken and disappear.

Step 2 – Know that “Discipline,” i.e, “Effort” Will Last Only 66 Days

It has been promulgated and believed for a long time in self help circles that it takes 21 days for an old habit to dissipate and for a new habit to begin to gel.  Recent research, according to a study that was reported in the marvelous book, The One Thing, by Gary Keller, (highly recommended reading!) has discovered otherwise.  It was found that it really takes about 66 days for an old negative habit to weaken and for the new positive habit to kick in and take over.

Step 3 – Know that After 66 Days an Automatic New Habit Is Formed

This is the good news.  If you can stick with it and make it consistently to the 66th day mark, a new habit has formed and your body mind takes over to make it and automatic, effortless, and enjoyable habit.  If your new habit is positive, productive, and goal-achieving, then your success is guaranteed.  At this point, you will enjoy your new activity so much that you will feel bad when you miss your exercise routine, when you miss your study time, or when you miss working on your business for an hour.  What was once discipline has been transformed to delight.

Sincerely yours,

Charles I. Prosper

Quote for Today’s Post:

“If you don’t start, it’s certain you won’t arrive.” — Anonymous

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Personal Development and Personal Goals – The 7-Step Formula for Achieving Any Goal

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Do you know the 7-step formula for achieving any goal?  You will when you finish reading this article.

The 7-step formula that I am about to give you is one that I have successfully used for the last 25 years.  I first learned of this formula from the great motivator, Zig Ziglar.  Here I will condense and simplify these steps for you.

The 7-Step Formula for Achieving Any Personal, Business, or Career Goal

Step # 1 – Write Down Your Goal

This first step is especially important for those who are not clear about what they really want to achieve.  If you cannot write or state your goal in one clear and concise statement, then you probably don’t have one.

An example of a goal, which you could write down on an index card to be placed on your mirror or the cover of your notebook where you could see it everyday is “By December 200__, I intend to own and operated a private elementary school, which teaches and emphasizes positive self-image psychology, goal setting, and the principles of believing in oneself.”

Step # 3 – Write Down When You Expect to Obtain the Goal

Once you can understand and set a reasonable time frame for the achievement of your goal, you can fortify yourself with the necessary patience in order to persist until you have reached it.  It you know that it will take 1 year, or 2 years, or 3 years, you are will to do what is necessary during this time period.

Step # 3 – Write Down the Obvious Obstacles that Presently Stand in the Way of Your Goal

If there were not problems or obstacles in the way of any goal, it would be just a matter of claiming it.  Once you discern the obstacles, you can prepare yourself to take the necessary steps to remove them.

Step # 4 – Write Down the Needed People and Organizations who Can Help You

There is always someone who has already done what you have done, or there is an organization dedicated to helping people achieve what you want to achieve.  Uncover and connect with these people and organizations, be it a mentor or coach whom you pay, or a professional association, which you will join.

Step # 5 – Write Down the A Plan of Action

When you write down your initial plan, keep in mind that a plan is flexible and will indeed change and become refined as you change and evolve with new information and strategies.  Sometimes a 3-year plan becomes a 1-year plan after you learn certain things that you were not expecting to learn by experience.

Step # 6 – Write Down What You Need to Learn or Need to Know

If there is a skill or training that you will need, then get it.  If you need to take a course, read a book, or listen to an instructional audio, then do it.

Step # 7 – Write Down Why This Goal Is Important to You

If your “why” is strong enough, the “how” becomes insignificant, that is, whatever you need to do, no matter hard it might be for someone else, you will be committed to do it, no matter what it takes and no matter how long it takes.

Quote of Today’s Post: “Aim at nothing, and you will succeed.” ~ Anonymous

All the best,

Charles I. Prosper

(Transformational Life Coach)

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