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Personal Growth – Why “How-To” “Formula-Type” Success Gurus Do You the Most Harm

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Are you looking for the latest “how-to” “success-formula” by the most popular guru on the scene today who will lead you through a proven path or system of success and riches?  Forget it.  It ain’t gonna happen.

In this article, I will explain why success formulas cannot and will not ever work, and at the end, I will give you the only true path to success – however you define success for you.

Why “How-To” “Formula-Type” Success-Gurus Do You the Most Harm

1. There Can Be No Pre-Set Success Formula Suitable for Everyone

There are principles of success that everyone must follow, such as persistence, desire, determination, planning, and specialized knowledge.

However, inasmuch as every person’s situation is unique, there can never be a one-size-fits-all formula which follows the exact steps of someone else.

Each person must begin walking his or her chosen path to learn along the way the specific “success steps” or doors of opportunity that he or she must walk through without knowing what comes next.

Your problems and challenges will be different from the problems and challenges of that “success guru.”

2. Following a “Proven” Step-by-Step Formula Reduces Your Chances of Growth

If you are following a proven step-by-step formula, tacitly, you are being told that there are little or no risks, or that you need worry little about obstacles or setbacks.

Embedded in the word “proven” is the fallacious belief that what proved true for someone else’s situation and for someone else’s unique set of circumstances will prove true to you as well.

Just by the factor of time, among many other factors that are personal to you, the success formula of today is likely to be invalid as a success formula 20 years from now.

3. Believing in Ready-Made Success Strategies Creates a Counter-Productive Emotional Dependence on the Success Guru

I have even heard some internet success marketers tell would-be success students in their spiels and sales copy, “Just follow what I did.  I’ve made all of the mistakes for you, so you don’t have to make any of the mistakes I’ve made!”

And what happens when you make mistakes that were not the same mistakes as those of the guru?  What then?  The tendency will be to seek the answers from the “experts” outside of you rather than trusting your “expert within,” that is, your inner voice, your gut, or your own wisdom which you can only find inside of you.

Blindly or obsessively following the words of so-called experts, at some point, will weaken your ability to trust yourself and to ask yourself for answers.

The Only True Path to Success

The only true path to success is to know who you are, what you have, inside and out, and where you feel you must go.

Decide a path, any path, that you have an attraction to and start walking boldly and courageously along that path.  You will learn what you need to do.  You will learn what  you need to avoid.  You will makes mistakes along the way, plenty of them, but if you keep walking in the direction of your dreams, life and the experience of life will guide you and provide for you the steps that you need as you need them according to what stage you be, in the process of your growth.

After you have reached your goal, you may look back and see a series of “success steps” that have led you there, but don’t call it a formula. Know that you and every other traveler along this road we call success must find his or her own way and his or her own formula for success.

All the best,

Charles I. Prosper, MA
Transformational Life Coach

Quote for Today’s Post:

“It is more important to have the intention than the steps of how to get you there.” — Charles I. Prosper

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Personal Development – How to Discover and Use the 12 Great Laws of Success

I am sure that if you have been a student of success and personal development for any time you have heard about the Law of Attraction.  But did you know that there are really 12 great laws of success, without the knowledge of, the Law of Attraction becomes and remains null and void.

In this article, I will list and explain for you the 12 Great Laws of Success.

The 12 Great Laws of Success

Law # 1 – The Law of Goal Setting

This is the first great law, which is basically the law of knowing what you want and setting clear mental and written goals.  Once you have set a firm goal, you have asked or made your request to the Universe.

Law # 2 – The Law of Belief

The foundation of success and achievement will be found in the principle of believing.  “As a man thinks in his heart, so is he.”  The essence of believing is feeling, and feeling is believing.  There is great power and attractive force in the power of belief.

Law # 3 – The Law of Positive Expectation

Positive attitude and expectancy are one of the great key to manifesting what you want in life.  In life, you truly get what you expect.  If you expect the best, you will get it.  If you expect success, success is yours.

Law # 4 – The Law of Detachment

The Law of Detachment usually goes by another name that we are more familiar with, and that is Faith.  Faith is the ability to not worry over the results but to know that the results are on its way.

Law # 5 – The Law of Attraction

The Law of Attraction is one of the most attractive of all of the 12 laws because it appeals to the genie-in-the-bottle concept.  However, the Law of Attraction is not what is really appears to be.  The Law of Attraction is no more than the Law of Opportunity by another name.

Law # 6 – The Law of Planning

This law tells you to start where you are and to do what you can on the path to the achievement of your goals.  Planning can be mental, but it is even more effective when it is written down in detail.

Law # 7 – The Law of the Willingness to Do Whatever It Takes

The willingness to do whatever is necessary is that which lubricates the mechanics of inspired ideas.

Law # 8 – The Law of Immediate Action 

The Universe rewards action.  When you have an inspired ideas, you cannot procrastinate, less you allow the idea to weaken and die.  You must act on it immediately to keep the inspired idea alive.

Law # 9 – The Law of Persistence

Life will give you anything that you desire if you insist on it, if you take every obstacle as a challenge, much like the mindset of the person who enjoys putting together the pieces to solve a jigsaw puzzle. It’s all a game. Truly, it’s all a game.  Have fun with it.

Law # 10 – The Law of Money

Money comes to you based on clearly defined laws.  You must know how to bless money, enjoy money, organize money, save money, invest money, and give money to experience it fully in your life as abundance.

Law 11 – The Law of Gratitude

The Law of Gratitude works to put you in touch with the Creative Source, or the Organizing Intelligence that has given you all that you have.  You employ this great law before and after you have received what you have intended.

Law 12 – The Law of Giving

The Law of Giving means giving to others, in any way available to you, in order to improve the quality of life of those less fortunate or as an expression of love to those whom you care the most.

I go into great detail on each of these laws in my book,“The Secret Revealed – How to Use the 12 Great Laws of Success.”

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The paperback is available on Amazon.com

All the best,

Charles I. Prosper, MA
Transformational Life Coach

Quote for Today’s Post:

“Your success is only as good as the excuses you refuse to live by.” — Charles I. Prosper

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Personal Development and Success – Is a Million Dollars Necessary to Be Prosperous, Healthy, and Happy?

Is a million dollars necessary to be prosperous, healthy, and wealthy?  This was my response to an answer that a coaching client gave me when I asked him, “What is your definition of success?”  His knee-jerked, pre-programmed response was, “Uh, well, I don’t know.  I guess a million dollars in the bank.”

To his response, I said, “You don’t really believe that this is what you want–or need.  It is probably something you heard or read somewhere that “millionaire-success-guru” said on a tape or wrote in a book.

I think that most people, when it comes to achieving success, wealth, and happiness have been sold a fake bill of goods.

I repeat my initial question. Is a million dollars necessary to be prosperous, healthy, and wealthy?  I think that the answer to this question comes from the answering of a series of other questions that must precede it.

The quality of your questions defines the quality of your life experience.

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4 Questions Which Present 4 Different Measures of Prosperity:

Prosperity-Measure Question # 1 – Do You Have Enough Money to Live the Life You Want to Live?

This is the bottom line to your experience and realization of wealth or prosperity.  How much money do you need to live the type of life that you want to live?  The answer to this question, for most people, who are really honest with themselves does not necessarily include having a million dollars in the bank.

If you are making $4000 a month now, how much would your experience of wealth and prosperity chance if you were earning $7000 a month? $10,000 a month?  $20,000 a month?  or maybe $30,000?  Most people would be ecstatic to have this shift upward in income.  We are still not talking about a million dollars.

The catch of course to earning far above average income usually necessitates your starting a full or part-time business that is compatible with your interest and talents, and one that would not consume so much of your free time that you would rather see or spend time with your loved ones.

Prosperity-Measure Question # 2 – Do You Enjoy Your Job, Business, or Career?

It is here that you must take full responsibility for your life.  If you do not enjoy your job, business, or career, an obvious change is needed, and an obvious first step in the right life path is what must be done.  Prosperity, health, and happiness has everything to do with enjoying your job, business, or career.

Prosperity-Measure Question # 3 – How Much Free Time Do You Have and Enjoy with Your Loved-Ones?

The measure of your wealth and prosperity a measure of how much free time you have or allot yourself to have and enjoy with your loved-ones. Having a surplus of money with no one but yourself to indulge and spend it on gets old and vacuous pretty fast.

Prosperity-Measure Question # 4 – How Healthy Are You?

There are some people with the wealth of kings who would give it all for better health.  If you take good care of your body and mind, and if you enjoy above average health, you are half of the way there to the prosperous and successful life that you desire.

So, what I am trying to say with all of these questions?

The way you define success is the key to your experience of success.

All the best,

Charles I. Prosper

Transformational Life Coach

Quote for Today’s Post:

“If everyone was a millionaire then no one would be a millionaire.” — Luzemily Prosper (spoken at 11-years-old) 

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