Monthly Archives: November 2013


Personal Development – The 3 Things to Avoid and 3 Things to Do in an Emotional Low Mood

Have you ever found yourself in an emotionally low state, and no matter what you said to yourself or did, you couldn’t seem to immediately shake it off?  Take heart.  We have all been through this, even the most “positive” of us.

In this article, I will explain the 3 things to avoid and the 3 things to do when you find yourself in one of those emotionally rare low moods.

The 3 Things to Avoid during an Emotionally Low State:

Thing to Avoid # 1 – Expecting Your Moods to Turn Off and On at Will

An emotion, i.e, a mood, once in motion rarely stops suddenly as a result of a supreme effort of will.  You may help yourself out of a low mood by becoming active, listening to lively music, singing, or dancing.  But all of this is still a process.  It can be helpful, but there is still no absolute guarantee of an immediate 180° reversal.

Give yourself some time to make a positive shift of gears.

Thing to Avoid # 2 – Making an Important Decision while in a Low Mood

Making an important decision while you are in a low mood is much like making an important decision when you are intoxicated or drunk.  Your perception is different.  Your cognitive and rational acuity is altered and clouded. There is only one sure result of a decision made while in a low mood and that is that you will probably regret it.

There is only only one solution to making an important decision while in a low mood, and that is “don’t.”  Wait.  Avoid regrets.  If the decision is that important, it deserves that you be in a better state of mind.

Thing to Avoid # 3 – Expecting Peak Performance while in a Low Mood

How fast can an Olympic gold medalist run when he or she is tired, hungry, or sleep?  How well can you perform important tasks when you are tired, disoriented, or in an “emotional funk?”

Give yourself some space.  Go slow.

The 3 Things to Do during an Emotionally Low State:

Thing to Do # 1 – Remind Yourself that This Too Shall Pass Emotional low moods are temporary cold winds that blow through every “normal” person’s life. What I mean to say here is that, unless you have been diagnosed as clinically depressed, everyone has those occasional days where even meditating on all of the positive platitudes of life still doesn’t seem to do the trick. It’s okay.

We’ve all been there.  Just as Kahil Gibran said in The Prophet, “And could you keep your heart in wonder at the daily miracles of your life, your pain would not seem less wondrous than your joy.”

Tomorrow is another day.  As my daughter, Luzemily, said at 11-years-old, “You are born again every time you wake up.”

Thing to Do # 2 – Be Patient with Yourself and Not So Demanding I think that even the Buddha had his share of “bummer” days as well.  He probably just accepted and surrendered to the inevitability of the moment and therefore thus unwittingly transmuted his non-peace into peace.

Don’t fight your low mood.  Just be with it, and allow it to be.  It is just passing through.

Thing to Do # 3 – Allow Yourself the Space or Permission to “Not-Do” Most high-achievers or normally “upbeat” individuals have a hard time handling it when the emotional tides are pulling them in a different direction.

You cannot always be a “peak performer.”  Life is cyclical.  There are highs and there are lows.  No one is exempt.  And even though you may be fortunate enough to enjoy the majority of your days “riding the waves,” it is unrealistic and self-defeating to not allow yourself an occasional day of non-achieving.

We all need a day of rest.  Give yourself some space. Rest.  Recharge yourself. Tomorrow will be a better day.

All the best,

Charles I. Prosper, MA Transformational Life Coach

Quote for Today’s Post: “Everybody has the right to have an ‘off’ day.” — Luzemily Prosper (spoken at 13-years old.)

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Personal Development – How to Discover and Use the 12 Great Laws of Success

I am sure that if you have been a student of success and personal development for any time you have heard about the Law of Attraction.  But did you know that there are really 12 great laws of success, without the knowledge of, the Law of Attraction becomes and remains null and void.

In this article, I will list and explain for you the 12 Great Laws of Success.

The 12 Great Laws of Success

Law # 1 – The Law of Goal Setting

This is the first great law, which is basically the law of knowing what you want and setting clear mental and written goals.  Once you have set a firm goal, you have asked or made your request to the Universe.

Law # 2 – The Law of Belief

The foundation of success and achievement will be found in the principle of believing.  “As a man thinks in his heart, so is he.”  The essence of believing is feeling, and feeling is believing.  There is great power and attractive force in the power of belief.

Law # 3 – The Law of Positive Expectation

Positive attitude and expectancy are one of the great key to manifesting what you want in life.  In life, you truly get what you expect.  If you expect the best, you will get it.  If you expect success, success is yours.

Law # 4 – The Law of Detachment

The Law of Detachment usually goes by another name that we are more familiar with, and that is Faith.  Faith is the ability to not worry over the results but to know that the results are on its way.

Law # 5 – The Law of Attraction

The Law of Attraction is one of the most attractive of all of the 12 laws because it appeals to the genie-in-the-bottle concept.  However, the Law of Attraction is not what is really appears to be.  The Law of Attraction is no more than the Law of Opportunity by another name.

Law # 6 – The Law of Planning

This law tells you to start where you are and to do what you can on the path to the achievement of your goals.  Planning can be mental, but it is even more effective when it is written down in detail.

Law # 7 – The Law of the Willingness to Do Whatever It Takes

The willingness to do whatever is necessary is that which lubricates the mechanics of inspired ideas.

Law # 8 – The Law of Immediate Action 

The Universe rewards action.  When you have an inspired ideas, you cannot procrastinate, less you allow the idea to weaken and die.  You must act on it immediately to keep the inspired idea alive.

Law # 9 – The Law of Persistence

Life will give you anything that you desire if you insist on it, if you take every obstacle as a challenge, much like the mindset of the person who enjoys putting together the pieces to solve a jigsaw puzzle. It’s all a game. Truly, it’s all a game.  Have fun with it.

Law # 10 – The Law of Money

Money comes to you based on clearly defined laws.  You must know how to bless money, enjoy money, organize money, save money, invest money, and give money to experience it fully in your life as abundance.

Law 11 – The Law of Gratitude

The Law of Gratitude works to put you in touch with the Creative Source, or the Organizing Intelligence that has given you all that you have.  You employ this great law before and after you have received what you have intended.

Law 12 – The Law of Giving

The Law of Giving means giving to others, in any way available to you, in order to improve the quality of life of those less fortunate or as an expression of love to those whom you care the most.

I go into great detail on each of these laws in my book,“The Secret Revealed – How to Use the 12 Great Laws of Success.”

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The paperback is available on Amazon.com

All the best,

Charles I. Prosper, MA
Transformational Life Coach

Quote for Today’s Post:

“Your success is only as good as the excuses you refuse to live by.” — Charles I. Prosper

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Personal Development – The 3 Reasons Why Success Formulas Don’t Work–And What to Do Instead

Have you just read the latest get-rich book for success promulgated by currently popular”guru du jour”? In his bestselling book, he lists the step-by-step success formula how he achieved millionaire status, going from rags to riches in only 5 short years.  So now he wants to show you how to do the same by following his same career path.  There is only one problem here. Success formulas don’t work.

There is no one-size-fits-all path to achieving success in any field or endeavor.  As appealing as the “paint-by-number” concept of following someone’s else’s accomplishment may be, this mindset is fraught with hidden mine fields of inevitable pitfalls that were not accounted for in the original “success formula”

In this article, I will explain the 3 reasons why success formulas don’t work, and what to do instead.

The 3 Reasons Why Success Formulas Don’t Work

Reason Number 1 – No Two People Start in the Same Financial Situation

If you want to invest in real estate and make a million dollars in 5 years and you have bad credit, no job, and little capital, you plan and approach would be different from someone who has good credit, a steady job, and enough capital to start.  You would have to create a plan based on your situation.

The main flaw of most success formulas is that they don’t take in consideration any particular or special situation

Reason Number 2 – No Two People Have the Exact Same Skills and Experience

The success formula, which was originally developed and created, was based on the skills and experience of the originator.  Rarely do the “student” and the “teacher” start with the exact same skill and experience-level.

Reason Number 3 – No Two People Have the Same Talent, Discipline, and Determination

To achieve above average income requires above average discipline, determination, and in many cases, above average talent.  Each person needs to do a personal inventory and ascertain if he or she is discipline and determined enough to be willing to do whatever it takes.

In the real world most people are “average” in ambition, desire, and determination.  Were this not the case, above average would not even be possible.

What To Do Instead of Blindly Following Success Formulas

What To Do Instead Number 1 – Assess And Realistically Look At Your Financial Situation

You plan or path to success must be unique to your financial situation and where you are starting. When you read or study someone else’s step-by-step formula, you must ask how do the suggestions taught logically fit within the framework of where you are.  If they appear logical to your situation, then do it, and see what results.  The key thing is to learn by doing which in essence is the process of creating your own custom-made success plan.

What To Do Instead Number 2 – Assess Your Skills and Experience

If there is a skill that you must master, then your first plan is to master that skill.  As you put into practice what you learn, you are accumulating the experience necessary for further success.

What To Do Instead Number 3 – Know What Your Level of Desire and Determination Is

Your continued success is predicated in knowing what you want, why it is important, and the willingness to do whatever it takes no matter what obstacles arise.  If it were as easy as just following a success formula step-by-step, then everyone would be doing it.

Therefore with every success formula, the question to ask is “How does this fit within my personal situation right now?”  And carry out those steps which are most logical for you, and along the way, discover your own steps.

All the best,

Charles I. Prosper, MA
Transformational Life Coach

Quote for Today’s Post:

“There is no way to know before experiencing.” — Anonymous

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Personal Development – The 3 Biggest Mistakes of Time Management and What to Do Instead

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Do you know the 3 biggest mistakes of time management?  In this article, you will understand what these 3 most common mistakes are and what to do instead.

The 3 Biggest Mistakes of Time Management

Mistake Number 1 – You Make a “To-Do” List Based on the First Activities that Come to Mind

Making a to-do list based on the first activities that come to mind operates on the assumption that all things have equal value, and all things that can possibly be done, should be done.  The fact is that in a day of limited time, all things cannot possibly have the same value, and all things most definitely should not be done just because they have been placed on a list.

Mistake Number 2 – You Overload Your To-Do List with Too Many Things

Proponents of time management pride themselves in how much they are able to do in a day.  This a formula for stress and unhappiness.  More done does not equal better done.  Even worse, the people who insist on putting more and more on their daily to-do list also practice the insidious and counterproductive habit of “multi-tasking.”  Machines are meant to multi-task; people are not.

Mistake Number 3 – You Believe Completion of Tasks Equals Accomplishment

When an activity of placed on a list, there is this unspoken mandate to complete it no matter what. Some activities should not have been placed on your list in the first place.  Successful completion of menial and unimportant things, is failure of accomplishment in disguise.

The 3 Things of Time Management to Do Instead

What to Do Instead Number 1 – Make Your To-Do List Based on Your “1 Thing”

The concept of making a to-do list based on your 1 Thing is a very profound concept indeed.  The key to success is to know what is the 1 thing that your life is about and then plan your daily activities based on that.  It’s not really about “Time” Management, for time cannot be “managed.”  It is about Priority Management.  You must always do first things first.

What to Do Instead Number 2 – Simplify Your List to the Top 5 Things You Should Do Today

It has been my experience that to create a to-do list greater that 5 items, is to not focus on that which is most important.  And of that list of 5 things to do, it is important to do the most important activity first based on the importance of completing the advancement toward your 1 Thing.  Most people have a “could-do” list.  I am saying to create a “should-do” list — and make it no more than 5 items.

What to Do Instead Number 3 – Complete Only That Which You Have Ascertained to Be Important

People believe that procrastination is always bad, but procrastination of insignificant and menial activities is the mindset of a successful person.  What goes on your “Priority List” has to be filtered through the question of whether that activity will take you closer or farther away from your 1 Thing. 

Respectfully,

Charles I. Prosper, MA

Transformational Life Coach

Quote for Today’s Post:

“There is no such thing as time management. There is only priority management of the activities that lead you to your ‘One Thing’.” — Charles I. Prosper

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Personal Growth – How to Use an Amazing Technique to Easily Trigger Creative Solutions During Your Morning Shower

How would you like to learn and amazingly simple and effective technique for triggering creative solutions to problems during your morning shower? What I have to share with you in this article will simple amaze you.

A “Coincidence” I Noticed and Overlooked for Years

For years, I noticed a phenomenon which I am about to describe to you for years, but I never gave it any serious thought until today, when everything became crystal clear to me.

Today I paid real close attention to what I now call the “morning-shower creative-idea response.”

Let me explain to you how this works by explaining to you how I usually generate creative-idea solutions to so many of my problem-challenges.

What I will show you is so simple, easy, and effective for generating the creative ideas to answer almost any problem.  (I am surprised I had never realized this technique earlier.)

Last night, I was trying to think of a way to entice (invite) more subscribers to my online personal development list.

Programming a Dream Solution Before Going to Bed

Before I went to bed, for about 15 minutes, I programmed myself to dream of the solution.  I usually say something like, “Tonight when I dream, I will receive the perfect solution to this problem.”  I said and repeated this idea to myself several times, then I went to bed.

I placed my ball point pen and my small notebook under my pillow to quickly write down any dream solutions upon awakening.

The Trick to Programming a Dream Solution is to Remember the Dream after You Have It

The trick to getting dream solutions, should they come during the night or early in the morning, is to remember them before they fade away.

Sometimes you will recall the dream-solution, and sometimes you won’t. This doesn’t mean that you have “lost” the dream-idea solution.  This only means that your “inner-self” will present this solution to you at a different time and in a different way.

The key is to be ready to write down the idea in its entirety as soon as it comes to you when it is still fresh in your mind.

The Creative Idea “In the Shower Response”

I have noticed that the solution usually comes to me in a sort of “Ah-ha!” epiphany-like moment — while I am showering the morning after I have programmed the dream solution.

The key here is to grab a pad nearby, even if you must get out of the shower soaking-wet and write the inspiration down (in detail) as soon as you receive it.

You will find yourself, to your surprise, writing down detailed and intricate steps to completely solve the previously-believed “insurmountable” obstacle.

It Gets Even Better

Here’s the good news!  The more you practice this, the better you get at it and the easily and faster the solutions flow to you in the morning as you shower.

Try this.  It works!  You’ll be glad you did.

One Final Key

Take immediate action, that is, the same day, to follow through on the inspired idea.  A fresh inspired idea gets “spoiled” and weakens when it is “put away on the shelf” for later.  Take action on it now!

Respectfully,

Charles I. Prosper

Transformational Life Coach

Quote for Today’s Post:

“Two men were confined behind bars.  One saw mud.  The other saw stars.” — Anonymous

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Personal Growth – The Law of Attraction is Only the Law of Opportunity in Disguise

The law of attraction – how does the law of attraction really work?  The answer to this question may surprise you.

I saw a beautiful young lady step out of a Nissan mini van to open up her, what looked like, income tax business.  She was awesome!  Gorgeous face! Curvy body.  Classy looks. The complete package.

As I passed her, she smiled and said, “Good morning.”  I replied with a smile and said “Good morning” to her as well.  I walked on by when — Wham!  It hit me.  I’d just experienced the law of attraction for which I chose not to act upon.

I could have easily stopped, started a conversation about her income tax business, then move seamlessly to introducing myself and asking for her business card.  I’m sure she would have given it to me.

Opportunity is Predicated on a Willingness to Act

It would have been a simple matter of calling her later, confessing my attraction, and asking her out to lunch.  The law of attraction is the law of opportunity.  Opportunity is only as good as your willingness to act on it when presented to you.

Opportunity Knocks More Than Once

Opportunity not only knocks more than once, it never stops knocking until it gets your attention, that is, until you act.  The reason that the opportunity is always knocking is because the law of attraction is always in operation.

Life moves with the currents of thought, individual and collective, and as thought moves and changes in a constant state of positive/negative polarity flux, so do also the circumstances or the opportunities that we begin to become aware of and act upon.

Opportunities Are “Seen”– Not Attracted

I think that it is a misnomer to think that situations or opportunities are “attracted” to us.  I think that it is rather more correct to say that we are “becoming more aware” of the sea of opportunities which surround us now at this very moment but which may not be seen through a lack of awareness, i.e., a negative self-concept.

You are not attracted to opportunities per se.  Opportunity is who you are. Opportunity is how you perceive the world and how you choose to act upon it.  This is the Law of Attraction in action.

Respectfully,

Charles I. Prosper

Transformational Life Coach

Quote for Today’s Post:

“Two men were confined behind bars.  One saw mud.  The other saw stars.” — Anonymous

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Personal Development and Parenting – Why a Daughter Needs Her Dad to Develop Self Esteem and Self Worth

Daughters need their dads.  In this article, I will expound on one of the many reasons why.

A 12-Year-Old’s Need for a Boyfriend

I was talking to a 12-year-old middle school girl.  She mentioned that she had a “boyfriend.”  I was shocked.  I asked her, “What do you need a boyfriend for?  How do you plan to use him?”  “I don’t know.  Not for kissing or hugging or anything like that,” she blushed.

“Then for what?” I insisted.

“To protect me” was her answer.

“Don’t you have a family to protect you?” I then asked.

“My dad left, and I haven’t seen him for a month.”

There you have it!  This little girl was looking for a father-figure-protector substitute.

What This 12-Year-Old Didn’t Understand About Boys

This 12-year-old, who watched all of the Disney princess-prince charming movies when she was little, had a fantasy-picture of what teen-boys are like instead of understanding how they are really wired.

My Explanation to Her of How Teen-Boys Think

I went on to explain to her that pubescent boys are “hummingbirds.”  “What do you mean?” she asked with a frown of confusion.  “What do hummingbirds do in a garden?”  “They fly backwards?” was her reply.  “Yes, that’s true, but look a little closer and you will see that their main activity is to go from flower-to-flower, tasting one, then quickly going to another while trying to taste as many varieties of flowers that they can.”

“Ah, when you put it like that, I see what you mean, Mr. Prosper.  Boys are dumb-asses.”

“Right!  You got it.  They are dumb-ass hummingbirds.”

“Thank you, Mr. Prosper.”

“You’re welcome, sweetheart.”

Respectfully,

Charles I. Prosper

Transformational Life Coach

Quote for Today’s Post:

“If it was illegal to hug–nobody would be happy.” — Luzemily Prosper (spoken at 10-years-old) 

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Personal Development and Parenting – 7 Tips to Enjoy Your Children More (That’s What They Are There For!)

Parents, how much do you really enjoy and appreciate your children?

I was shopping one day in my neighborhood supermarket, and as I was walking down one of the aisles, I saw this man, in his mid-thirties or so, with three of the most beautiful babies, ages about 3, 4, or 5, that you could ever imagine.

I can only remember one of the little girls, with incredibly bright eyes, long curly black hair, olive brown skin, and a smile you melt your heart. The dad?  Well, to my surprise and confusion, he walked alongside them, solemn-faced, no smile, as though he had been condemned to death.

Notwithstanding that this gentleman may have been having a bad day, my wish is only that this was not a regular daily experience with his kids.

The message of this article is a simple one: Enjoy your children; that’s what they are there for.

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7 Tips to Enjoy Your Children More

I would like to give my 7 tips for enhancing the experience of your kids in order to appreciate them more and to increase the quality of life and love that you have with them.

Tip # 1 – Look at Them When They Sleep

My daughter, Luzemily, just turned 15-years-old on November 3rd, and I still enjoy looking at her as she sleeps.  That beautiful innocence of who she was as a baby still remains.  I can only smile and feel grateful that she is in my life.

Tip # 2 – Listen to Them Laugh

Have you ever truly listened to the beautiful music of the laughter of a loved-one?  Mozart could not stand a chance next to the melody that they produce.

Tip # 3 – Look into Their Sparkling Eyes

All kids’ eyes sparkle.  And the sparkling does not come from the physical organic eye, but rather from a spiritual plane that they are still in touch with.

Tip # 4 – Listen to Their Curious Questions

“Daddy, why is the sky blue?  What are colds for?  Where do babies come from?”  One of the most important events to a child is when they can ask you a question and when you care enough to answer them.  Never be “too busy” to hear and answer their queries.  It builds their sef-esteem.

Tip # 5 – Admire Their Pet Rocks

Children find beauty and value in the most simplest of things.  When they find a “cool stick” on the ground, celebrate their find with them.  “Wow, Baby!  That’s an awesome-looking branch.  Let’s go and show, Mom.”

Tip # 6 – Play with Them When They Ask You

This is big one.  You are on the computer answering “important” emails, you 5-year-old comes up to you and asks, “Daddy, would you play with me?”  What do you do?  Do you say you are too busy to stop, or do you stop, and spend 10-minutes with her.  Give yourself a break, and give your daughter a mini-positive experience with her dad that she will always cherish in her memory.

Tip # 7 – Be There for Them Always

Once a dad – always a dad.  Once a mom – always a mom.  When all turn their backs on them, when all disappoint and let down, there is always one never-ending constant, the love and support of a parent.

All the best,

Charles I. Prosper

Transformational Life Coach

Quote for Today’s Post:

“Daddy.  Hug me.  I’m a ‘hugaholic.” — Luzemily Prosper (spoken at 10-years-old) 

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Personal Development and Success – Is a Million Dollars Necessary to Be Prosperous, Healthy, and Happy?

Is a million dollars necessary to be prosperous, healthy, and wealthy?  This was my response to an answer that a coaching client gave me when I asked him, “What is your definition of success?”  His knee-jerked, pre-programmed response was, “Uh, well, I don’t know.  I guess a million dollars in the bank.”

To his response, I said, “You don’t really believe that this is what you want–or need.  It is probably something you heard or read somewhere that “millionaire-success-guru” said on a tape or wrote in a book.

I think that most people, when it comes to achieving success, wealth, and happiness have been sold a fake bill of goods.

I repeat my initial question. Is a million dollars necessary to be prosperous, healthy, and wealthy?  I think that the answer to this question comes from the answering of a series of other questions that must precede it.

The quality of your questions defines the quality of your life experience.

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4 Questions Which Present 4 Different Measures of Prosperity:

Prosperity-Measure Question # 1 – Do You Have Enough Money to Live the Life You Want to Live?

This is the bottom line to your experience and realization of wealth or prosperity.  How much money do you need to live the type of life that you want to live?  The answer to this question, for most people, who are really honest with themselves does not necessarily include having a million dollars in the bank.

If you are making $4000 a month now, how much would your experience of wealth and prosperity chance if you were earning $7000 a month? $10,000 a month?  $20,000 a month?  or maybe $30,000?  Most people would be ecstatic to have this shift upward in income.  We are still not talking about a million dollars.

The catch of course to earning far above average income usually necessitates your starting a full or part-time business that is compatible with your interest and talents, and one that would not consume so much of your free time that you would rather see or spend time with your loved ones.

Prosperity-Measure Question # 2 – Do You Enjoy Your Job, Business, or Career?

It is here that you must take full responsibility for your life.  If you do not enjoy your job, business, or career, an obvious change is needed, and an obvious first step in the right life path is what must be done.  Prosperity, health, and happiness has everything to do with enjoying your job, business, or career.

Prosperity-Measure Question # 3 – How Much Free Time Do You Have and Enjoy with Your Loved-Ones?

The measure of your wealth and prosperity a measure of how much free time you have or allot yourself to have and enjoy with your loved-ones. Having a surplus of money with no one but yourself to indulge and spend it on gets old and vacuous pretty fast.

Prosperity-Measure Question # 4 – How Healthy Are You?

There are some people with the wealth of kings who would give it all for better health.  If you take good care of your body and mind, and if you enjoy above average health, you are half of the way there to the prosperous and successful life that you desire.

So, what I am trying to say with all of these questions?

The way you define success is the key to your experience of success.

All the best,

Charles I. Prosper

Transformational Life Coach

Quote for Today’s Post:

“If everyone was a millionaire then no one would be a millionaire.” — Luzemily Prosper (spoken at 11-years-old) 

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Personal Development and Self Improvement – The Key Reasons You Fail when You “Try” to Be Successful

I was coaching a lady once on how to become more successful with her proposed endeavors.  What she said to me was very interesting and revealing.  She said, “Charles, I have spent more than 30 years trying to achieve success, and I am still trying.  I have come across insurmountable obstacles that have held me back, but I continue to pursue my big money goals.”

I saw a lot wrong with this statement.  Were you able to notice what I saw after she finished her explanation.  I extrapolated and understood was she was really saying from her choice of words and the way that she said it.

Trying vs. Committing (There is a Difference!)

The operative word of her statement is that she had spent more than 30 years “trying” to succeed.  There is a big difference between trying something and committing to something.  When you try, you make generous allowances for quitting when obstacles or difficulties arise.  When you commit, quit is not an option.

It is possible to try many different things for 30 years, jumping from one thing to the next without staying with any one long enough for it to bear fruit, but it is rare to see anyone committed to any one thing for 30 years and not see extraordinary success.

The Hummingbird

I suspect that this person was a “hummingbird.”  What I mean by this is that, like a hummingbird in a garden, from one interest to another, she jumped and tasted one endeavor and then the next, at every major or minor setback, without staying long enough with any one idea to see any significant results.  By contrast, the woodpecker continues drilling into the bark of the tree until it reaches its objective, the worm.

At What Point Does an Obstacle Become Insurmountable?

And is any obstacle insurmountable, or is this just a belief system?  An obstacle becomes “insurmountable” in the moment that one gives up.  To climb a mountain, you must continue the climb.

Respectfully,

Charles I. Prosper

Transformational Life Coach

Quote for Today’s Post:

“Trying provides two excuses: an excuse for not Doing, and an excuse for not Having.” — Anonymous 

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