Monthly Archives: February 2014

Personal Growth – Detachment is the Secret of the Law of Attraction


Detachment is the secret of the law of attraction.  In this article, I will explain what detachment is and how it is the number one key to making all of your joyful dreams come true.

Ask.  Believe.  Receive.

I was once listening to the spiritual advice of a “success thought leader,” and he said that the secret of success lies in understanding three principles.  He said that these three principles are: Ask.  Believe.  And Receive.

The Real Meaning of “Believing”

Today, during my morning meditation, I got an insight as to the real meaning of “Believe,” and how the right kind of belief creates the magic and miracles that we all seek.  First of all, as I understood and saw in my meditation, we are not talking about egocentric belief, that is, “I believe that I can do this,” or “I believe that I will achieve this or that.”

Trust is the Magic Ingredient of Believing

The type of belief that creates miracles can be translated as “Trust,” but not trust in one’s own limited powers and abilities on a human level, but Trust in Higher Power and Higher Power’s Divine Love to give us what we need when we need it.

Detachment and the Law of Attraction

It was at this point that I understood how and why Detachment creates the impetus for the Law of Attraction.  You cannot detach or stop worrying about the outcome of any desire unless you trust that all will happen for the best at the right time and in the right way according to the will and way of Universal Divine Love.

My Personal “Success Story” with Detachment

I have noticed on a personal level (and I am sure that you can also if you think about it), that every time I have truly “stopped worrying” about an outcome after I have done all I could, the outcome happened almost immediately.

I remember after I obtained my master’s in Psychology, I applied for a Level II Children’s Social Worker’s position.   There were delays of weeks at a time and a long waiting list in order to be processed.  I then remembered what my sage daughter, Luzemily, told me once when she was only 13 years-old, “Dad, if you can learn to live without it, you can definitely have it.”

So, following her advice, I just dropped the concern over being employed as a children’s social worker from my mind.  In fact, instead of worrying and waiting, I decided to seek out other employment in the meantime.

Detachment Opened the Door for Me to Receive

I found an opening to teach Psychology as a permanent tenured position at one of the local community colleges here in Southern California.  I applied for the teacher’s job, thus completely detaching from my concern of being hired as a social worker.

Within 24 hours after having detached and applied for the teacher’s position, I received an email from the County of Los Angeles saying that I was hired immediately and was given a start date of 2 weeks following that email notice.  Coincidence?  Yes, of course.  But what is coincidence after all other than the divine language of God?

Why There Can Be Miracles when You Believe

Belief means miracles, but it is a only that type of belief which implies trust in God.  (Trust and faith are synonymous.)  Trusting implies non-worry.  Non-worry equals detachment.  Thus detachment is the secret to the Law of Attraction – because when you detach, you let go and let God.

All the best,

Charles Prosper, MA

Transformational Life Coach

Quote for Today’s Post:

“If you can learn to live without it, you can definitely have it.” — Luzemily Prosper (at 13-years-old)

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Personal Growth – Why “How-To” “Formula-Type” Success Gurus Do You the Most Harm



Are you looking for the latest “how-to” “success-formula” by the most popular guru on the scene today who will lead you through a proven path or system of success and riches?  Forget it.  It ain’t gonna happen.

In this article, I will explain why success formulas cannot and will not ever work, and at the end, I will give you the only true path to success – however you define success for you.

Why “How-To” “Formula-Type” Success-Gurus Do You the Most Harm

1. There Can Be No Pre-Set Success Formula Suitable for Everyone

There are principles of success that everyone must follow, such as persistence, desire, determination, planning, and specialized knowledge.

However, inasmuch as every person’s situation is unique, there can never be a one-size-fits-all formula which follows the exact steps of someone else.

Each person must begin walking his or her chosen path to learn along the way the specific “success steps” or doors of opportunity that he or she must walk through without knowing what comes next.

Your problems and challenges will be different from the problems and challenges of that “success guru.”

2. Following a “Proven” Step-by-Step Formula Reduces Your Chances of Growth

If you are following a proven step-by-step formula, tacitly, you are being told that there are little or no risks, or that you need worry little about obstacles or setbacks.

Embedded in the word “proven” is the fallacious belief that what proved true for someone else’s situation and for someone else’s unique set of circumstances will prove true to you as well.

Just by the factor of time, among many other factors that are personal to you, the success formula of today is likely to be invalid as a success formula 20 years from now.

3. Believing in Ready-Made Success Strategies Creates a Counter-Productive Emotional Dependence on the Success Guru

I have even heard some internet success marketers tell would-be success students in their spiels and sales copy, “Just follow what I did.  I’ve made all of the mistakes for you, so you don’t have to make any of the mistakes I’ve made!”

And what happens when you make mistakes that were not the same mistakes as those of the guru?  What then?  The tendency will be to seek the answers from the “experts” outside of you rather than trusting your “expert within,” that is, your inner voice, your gut, or your own wisdom which you can only find inside of you.

Blindly or obsessively following the words of so-called experts, at some point, will weaken your ability to trust yourself and to ask yourself for answers.

The Only True Path to Success

The only true path to success is to know who you are, what you have, inside and out, and where you feel you must go.

Decide a path, any path, that you have an attraction to and start walking boldly and courageously along that path.  You will learn what you need to do.  You will learn what  you need to avoid.  You will makes mistakes along the way, plenty of them, but if you keep walking in the direction of your dreams, life and the experience of life will guide you and provide for you the steps that you need as you need them according to what stage you be, in the process of your growth.

After you have reached your goal, you may look back and see a series of “success steps” that have led you there, but don’t call it a formula. Know that you and every other traveler along this road we call success must find his or her own way and his or her own formula for success.

All the best,

Charles I. Prosper, MA
Transformational Life Coach

Quote for Today’s Post:

“It is more important to have the intention than the steps of how to get you there.” — Charles I. Prosper

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